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This board is multifaceted, crossing various topics from New Age, spirituality, metaphysical, psychology, physical issues, relationships, emotions, self-help and more. It is created for those who seek change and desire to empower themselves, to live life as an expression of who they really are in unconditional love. If you think/feel that your life and this world full of denial, fear and unlovingness is totally opposite what you desire, it is no coincidence that you are here.

To say that this board will be controversial is an understatement as it goes against almost everything society presently believes to be true about emotions, feelings, life and love. But then why wouldn't it be controversial if the desire and goal is the opposite of what is presently being experienced! To empower yourself, you need to be open to challenge everything you believe to be true, especially about love, life, emotions and feelings and also be willing to end your denials of self.

I openly share the knowledge, tools, messages and insights that I've gained through sixteen years of intensive personal experience and in working with others on their journey. Feel free to visit the various forums and posts and to also add your personal experiences, comments and questions. It is my intent that the ideas and works that will be discussed within this forum will not only expand your consciousness, but also activate your emotions and touch your heart.

In love, light and life,
John Rieger aka Shenreed

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103-07 Manifesting Denials


Conditional Love - 103-07 Manifesting Denials

Hi everyone,

Having a “positive attitude” is a favorite expression encouraged by society and although on the surface it seems innocent and the “loving” thing to do it is far from that. Society judges any feelings, emotions and particularly their expression as not acceptable and “negative,” as if they were wrong, bad or evil. But it’s not the feelings and emotions that are evil, but the denial, control and suppression of them that is the true evil. For what is important to grasp here is not what is being said but what is not being said (denied). If you are quick to judge that any “negative” or undesired emotions and issues are unacceptable, you then shove them away and put your attention and focus on what you like and want by intentionally, denying what it is that you don’t like or want to feel. We are told that our thoughts are energy and that they manifest our reality. If that statement is a truth, then it is also true that the thoughts that are denied are also energy and they also manifest our reality, our denials.

Now I’m not saying that a positive attitude can’t manifest what you desire, but what you manifest you do so in denial and sooner or later your dream bubble will burst. Your denials will not necessarily manifest in what you are focusing on but in another areas of your life. Say you’re struggling to make ends meet and you would like make more money to give your family a “so-called“ better life. To provide these necessities and pleasures for your loved ones, you decide to adopt a “positive attitude” and to focus your energy on the success of a business endeavor to make money so that you and your family can enjoy life. You find that your empire is growing but that gradually it also requires more and more of your time and energy. You then begin to notice that you’re losing the freedom you once had or time to be with your family. Your denials may also manifest in a manner where you have no one to share your empire with and you are alone on your throne. Now as your little world is tumbling down, you’re going to have to face what you didn’t want to face when you were busy being “positive.” All the issues that you had before you had money are still there and having money didn’t make your life better and give you what you really desired. Instead, you manifested your denials by losing what you were trying to better. Focusing on what you think would solve the problems and issues only works as long as you “feed” IT your energy.

Now the kicker here is that many people out there seem to have no problem manifesting a “good life” and being in denial at the same time. These “Others” who are of the denial polarity and adopt a “positive” attitude, thrive on working at their business and if their family disappears, they don’t care as they would deny that their family meant anything to them in the first place and they just move on. They appear to be successful not because they are smarter or luckier than you or I; but because they are in their natural element, where you and I are not. If denial, control and manipulation of others and of self isn’t your natural state of being, then trying to be what you are not, is a fools game and you’re bound to lose. I write this piece because it’s part of my story, been there done that, but there are countless other ways of manifesting our denials.

I often use the analogy of a fish talking to a fox by the waters edge. The fox tells the fish of the glorious places and things to see and do on the land. The fish sees the freedom that the fox appears to have and so the fish leaps out of the water to be like the fox. The fish struggles and finds the land difficult to move around on and even more difficult to breathe the air. The fish is not in its natural element anymore than the fox would be living under water. What’s ironic about this story is that in all this time the fish has continued to struggle on land to be like the fox and has never returned to its natural state of being and has even forgotten who and what it is. We are like the fish when we are in denial of who we are! Food for thought.

Shenreed


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hi,

I recently experienced the popping of my bubble through trying to adopt a positive attitude, and in doing so denied myself expression of my true feelings. Things haven't been great for me over the past few months, christmas is a bad time of the year for me, I've been going through the family court to gain full custody of two of my children as opposed to shared care, as I've moved from the city to the country and want all the kids with me full time. Well I lost the interim day to day orders as the magistrate decided it was better for the two children to continue to attend the primary school they were at until final orders are made, which could be a little while yet. Anyway I collect the children from school on a Friday afternoon and return them to the city on the Monday morning. Due to us just having finished summer school holidays and dad having the final week I missed out on taking the kids to school on their first day back, one just starting primary the other year two. I have two older children and one younger and have never missed being there. I have been on a self mission over the past 7 weeks to "pull my ears in" and adopt a positive attitude, everyone around me saying it'll all work out for the best in the end. I sat with my partner listening about how his girls has gone back to school and my friends talking about their kids all going back to school. Kept telling myself it was all ok. Bearing in mind that it had been a week already since I'd seen them and was going to be another 5 days before I saw them again. It used to be three days at the most. Well sadly last Monday night I was barbecuing with my partner and neighbours and got myself extremely full of alchohol and ended up in a state of rage. I still have blackouts from this, some of it I recall, much not. I know I kicked a couple of holes in the doors of my lovely new home and broke a few kitchen drawers and a couple of items in the kitchen. I am also aware at some stage of being extremely verbally abusive to my partner and told him I'd had a gutful and wanted out. I uprooted my life to start a fresh and as much as I'm pretty sure the final decision in the court will be in my favour it's been an awful hard journey as a mum and to have denied myself the true extent of my pain was very wrong of me. All I really wanted to do was cry and express the fact that I missed my kids and how much it really hurt me. Instead because I have been rather cranky for the past few months, bitchy as my partner pointed out I denied myself by trying to do "the righty" and "be positive"! I emailed him yesterday (he works away) and told him that in future if I so wished to express myself then I would say so and do it. Not behave bitchy and take it out on him, I wanted him to hear though that if I said I felt sad then so be it, doesn't mean I'm angry, sad is sad and my feelings are valuable even if others cannot understand them, which I also denied myself thinking others wouldn't understand and therefore my felings weren't valid.

thank's for letting me share.

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Hi Shadywhisper,

When I first read your post I felt it was Flickchick but I wasn’t sure. It wasn’t until I logged in again to reply that I saw your second post in your journal. I’ve decided to post what I had written anyway, as it was my original response. Nice to have you back!

Hi Shadywhisper,

I’d like to welcome you to the heart centre. It takes courage and REAL love for self to share your life openly with others. I’m glad that you’re beginning to end your denials and recognize that your feelings are important and need to be expressed as that is a BIG step. I’m excited for you as I can feel that you’re really passionate about life and living but until now, have been unknowing living a lie. I can sense a lot of doors opening for you and a lot of “wow‘s” coming into your life. emoticon

The next thing is to separate your false feelings and emotions from your real ones and to allow yourself to express your REAL emotions, as that is what will bring true healing and Self-empowerment. There are many posts in Coequal Therapy that will help you understand what I mean. It’s good that you have a partner that is willing to work with you in healing your emotions and maybe he too will open up to heal his issues when he sees and feels that real emotional expression is not only OK, but empowering.

Again, welcome to the Heart Centre and I do look forward to your posts.

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hi and thankyou.........

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